These are the two questions I've heard repeatedly for the last 2 weeks and up until now they have just made me want to scream, "NO, I have a list of about 1400 things that still need to be done and right now I'm just exhausted and daunted." Somehow in the last 36 hours I've actually started to realax. I know part of it is because I've had awesome help from friends. I can't tell if we are through the storm or if we are just in the eye. My loving husband to be has become a full fledged and embraced the fact that he is a groomzilla.